Vows

The dictionary defines a vow as a “solemn promise”. But Vows are deeper than promises. Vows are intentions set with the heart. They are commitments made from the deepest level of your conscious awareness. Vows are meaningful - they affect your energy and your being. When done with conviction, they connect to your soul and create very real circumstances in your life.

In a reading recently, Spirit showed me that my client’s mother had taken a vow to shield her daughter from the lineage of female oppression that had come before in the family line. When pregnant, my client’s mother had determined that she would not pass down the tradition, the history, the pain and fear she herself had experienced from her mother and grandmother to her own daughter. She determined that it would end with her. She made a vow.

As the reading progressed, Spirit showed me that my client was in the process of opening to her spiritual gifts and she kept hitting a wall – she felt blocked, like she could not actually connect with Spirit that she knew was there. Spirit showed me that this wall had been created by her mother’s vow to protect her daughter. My client had not yet broken energetically from her mother’s role as protector and her mother’s vow was still active and was essentially blocking her from opening fully to her own power. My client had also made vows of loyalty to others in her family. These vows were essentially keeping her from being free to fully be herself. Her energy was very actively engaged in holding to those loyalties – part of her was still holding to rules and ideas that no longer applied and no longer served her Highest Good.

It was time to release the vows.

We have all taken vows – whether in this life or in another. Very often, other life vows can impact our current life. This is because vows are made on a soul level and can be carried from life to life. For example – you may have taken a vow of poverty in another life and consequently find it difficult to enjoy prosperity and abundance in this life. This is because part of you is still beholden to the vow.

Releasing vows

Vows are made through the heart and with intention, and they can be released the same way.  Vows are taken consciously and so they must be released consciously. This means you need to have the same level of intention, purpose and energy to clear the vow as you gave making it.  You need to mean to release it and you need to commit to releasing it.

Usually you have some idea of the specific vow you are releasing. But even if you don’t know exactly In which case you can set the intention to release it by stating “I fully release any vows no longer serving my Highest Good.” Vows are taken to serve a particular purpose in a life and when that purpose has been fulfilled, the vow is no longer necessary and needs to be released. In my client’s case, her mother’s vow of protection over her daughter had served to shelter her daughter from the painful lineage she came from. The vow had been effective– my client grew up clear of the inherited bagged that plagued her mother and grandmother and women before her in the family line. Now that my client was in her own life and ready to step forward into her own power, she needed to consciously release the vows binding her so the energy from them would no longer impact her own ability to move forward in her life and growth. Releasing the vows clears her energy and sets her free to be in her own power.

If you feel blocked in a particular area of your life or growth, it can be helpful to intentionally release any vows you may have taken. Releasing the vows will help clear this area of your life and allow the energy or pattern to release. Once the vow is released, your Spirit is free to move forward and use its free will to create the best possible circumstances for you, unencumbered by outdated promises.

Skeptic? OK.

Sometimes when I tell people what I do, they tell me they’re skeptics and don’t believe in “that stuff”. I tell them that’s fine, because it is. It honestly makes no difference to me what people believe or if they believe what I do is real or not.  (They can ask my hundreds of clients or have a reading themselves if they want to know.) As a medium, I do not have an agenda to convince people that a) my belief system is the correct belief system or b) what I do is “real”.

I do what I do because it is my gift and my path.  Whether or not a client chooses to work with me is 100% up to them. If someone is skeptical about having a reading or about mediumship in general, that is fine with me. Honestly, I’m not gong to spend my time and energy trying to convince you. It’s up to you what you believe. I am here to help those I am in alignment to help by acting as a conduit for messages from Deceased Loved Ones and Spirit. Guidance and information pass through me from a Higher Source to serve my client’s Highest good. I have no judgment about any of it and in no way do I consider myself to be the moral authority or feel I have all the answers. In fact, the longer I do readings and the more experience I have, the more clear it is to me that in readings I see what I am Guided to see and there is a much larger plan and picture to all of this that is not necessarily ours to know. That is part of the mystery of God and of the human experience. 

Being a believer or a skeptic is personal to everyone, and everyone has had experiences that have shaped their belief systems. I have to say that I find it interesting that some people have incredibly open minds about issues like sexuality, or politics or equal rights, but when it comes to the idea of God or an afterlife they shut right down and declare it to be ridiculous.

In mediumship and in every other area of life, the key to having an open mind is to be willing to suppose that perhaps there is more than you may know or believe. Perhaps it’s possible that things are not as you suppose them to be, perhaps there is another way to see things and perhaps there are things you just don’t know anything about yet. Everyone’s path in life is different and is unique and special to them. If someone declares themselves to be a skeptic to me, I respect their beliefs. And I expect them to respect mine as well. We may be on different journeys in this life, but we walk together and the more we can accept one another for our similarities and our differences the more we can expand to enjoy all that this life has to offer.

In peace and love,

Ashley

How mediumship healed my relationship with my dad

My dad and I were completely estranged for most of my life. When I say completely estranged, I mean we did not speak for 20 years. There had been a great deal of tumult and chaos in my childhood and a long story short, my dad was never able to be the kind of dad I needed him to be. He never showed up for me and ours was a history of me feeling neglected by him and him being frustrated with me. The best and healthiest thing I could do for myself at the time was to cut it off with him. So I did. I stopped reaching out and so did he.

Fast forward 20 years and to the death of my younger brother. Revere died from a drug overdose in 2013.  He had a long struggle with heroin so it was not a surprise but, as these things always are, it was a shock. The first time I spoke to my dad in 20 years was shortly after Revere’s death. We were both devastated and also very wary and on guard in our communications together. Tentatively and carefully, we began talking. It was mainly so we could remember my brother - to share memories and exchange stories. It was also during these first few months after Revere’s death that I began doing the Reiki healing sessions that opened me up to my mediumship gift. I began connecting with my brother in my meditations (see more about how this happened and how I discovered I was a medium here.) It was immensely healing to me to feel my brother’s love and to receive his messages of apology, understanding and forgiveness.

In the course of the next weeks and months as I kept the connection with my dad open, my brother began to show me more insight into my father. He showed me his house, where he kept my brother's ashes, what items he still had of my brother’s and other personal details. I felt compelled to share all of this with my dad, but as it was the very beginning of my mediumship abilities and the fledgling stages of my reconnection with my dad, I felt nervous and vulnerable sharing any of these experiences and messages with my dad. I had no idea if my dad would believe me or how he would receive the information. I was scared I was wrong and I was scared my dad wouldn’t receive it well. But, I felt compelled. My brother gently pushed me forward and started to come through to me when I was talking to my dad, gently encouraging me to open up and share what I knew with him.

So I did.

I started by describing to my dad what my brother had shown me about my dad’s house; his favorite chair, the layout of his living room, where my brother’s ashes were kept on the fireplace mantel and what items of clothing my dad still had of my brother’s. After I gave  this information, I waited with my heart in my throat to see what would happen.

My father validated all of it.

All the details I had given him were correct – the ashes, the clothes, the living room. My dad was emotional as he heard this and he was amazed. He told me he had felt my brother’s presence with him and I was able to validate how and where. The love that poured through us was incredible. It was my brother’s love for both of us and it was my father’s and my love as our hearts opened to each other again.

As the weeks, months and now years have gone by, I have brought my brother through for my dad many times , as well as my dad’s own father and other relatives. Mediumship created the bridge not only from my brother to my dad and I, but it also created a bridge between my dad’s heart and my own, allowing us to release the past, to forgive each other and to enjoy the love we share.

This experience with my dad was the first of many for me. Now I do this not only for my family, but for hundreds of others. Healing family generations through mediumship is the core of what I do as a medium. Spirit showed me my purpose by guiding me in healing my own family, first.

What happens in a reading?

Each reading is different, unique and flows through completely guided by your Deceased Loved Ones, Guides and Angels, but I do have a struture and logic to how each reading is organized. Here is what you can expect in a reading with me:

Before I call you at the agreed upon time, I connect with Spirit to get an idea of which Spirits have messages for you and what the areas are that they wish to cover with you. I create an energetic link with Spirit so everything is aligned for the beginning of your reading. Once we are on the phone together, I will take a moment to connect with your energy and bring you into the link I have created with Spirit. Then I ask the first Spirit step forward to give their messages.

When a Spirit steps forward I will give as many details I can about them – their appearance, their characteristics, personality, job, home, clothing – whatever it is they relay to me, I will describe to you. When you feel you know who the person is or have an idea, you can indicate whether or not you know who they are, but please don't give any additional information! I will not ask you for any information about yourself or the Spirit. This is important, as one of the ways I trust what I receive is by knowing as little about you as possible before a reading and in the reading I will not want you to give me explanations or stories about the person am bringing through. This way, I know that what I am getting is from Spirit and not from my own mind. This also gives Spirit a lot to work with – they have more information that will identify them to you the less I know of them. The more I may know beforehand, the harder they have to work to find details/information that I do not know in order to validate themselves to you.

Once we have the physical ID, I allow the Spirit to give the message they came to give. Spirit always knows what they want to convey. They know what’s happening in your life and the guidance that will best benefit you now better than we do. After I have brought through everyone who has come to connect with you, there will be an opportunity to ask questions. We can delve deeper into areas Spirit brings up, or we can receive guidance from Spirit on any other issue that you may have now. Please understand that I cannot guarantee that any specific Spirit will appear - Spirit decides where they want to be! While we certainly can request that a specific individual in Spirit please come forward, it is important to understand that whomever does come forward has done so for a reason. Sometimes readings are all Deceased Loved Ones, sometimes Angels and Spirit Guides, Archangels and even Ascended Masters come forward and sometimes it is a combination! So, the fewer expectations you have, the easier it will be for you to welcome in what Spirit brings you.

Here’s how you can get the most out of your reading:

Really, the most important guidance I can give before a reading is to keep an open mind and heart. Readings are best entered into with as few preconceived ideas and expectations as possible. This is because Spirit has an agenda that most of the time, differs from our own. Readings are all about opening the connection to a Higher wisdom, so it’s important to trust that your reading will go as Spirit determines will best serve you and your Highest good now.

Before the reading, please review your deceased family tree. This means really reviewing all of those you may know in Spirit - family and friends- as you never know who will show up! This way if you have reviewed whom you know in Spirit, it will be easier for you to identify who comes forward.

Before the session, I suggest taking a quiet moment to transition into a focused listening state so your attention is directed at the information coming in for you.

And, please have paper and pen ready, as you will need to take notes!

You can expect to receive information about past, present or even future trajectories of your life path and what you can do now to best heal and transform your life in order to be in alignment with your true path and purpose.

Your reading will take about an hour.

Each reading is a sacred experience for me and I do my best to create a safe space for you to reunite with your deceased Loved Ones in trust and love. Amazing things happen in each and every reading and I feel so fortunate to do this work. I am in awe of my clients for all they do and have experienced in their lives and I am honored to be in a position to offer assistance as they move forward on their paths. I love the Spirits that come through, and I deeply enjoy the connections I have with them during the readings. I have many returning clients and I consider them to be part of my soul family – we walk together on this journey through life.

I look forward to connecting with you! If you have any questions, please feel free to reach out!

With love,

Ashley